Your Girl Doesn’t Know What She Likes In Bed? We Got You
Here’s the scenario. You’re in bed and you say to your girl, “What do you like in bed? What are your fantasies?” but she says, “Dunno” So, how do you help her figure it out?
Learning what your girl likes in the sack is a personal and unique thing that you should explore together. Wanna help her understand her wants and desires? Start here:
WHAT DOES SHE THINK ABOUT WHEN SHE MASTURBATES?
Masturbation is a healthy and natural way to explore your own body and discover what feels pleasurable to you. What does she think about? What does she fantasize about when she pleasures herself? Some of her fantasies that turn you on may also turn her on. This can help her gain insight into what she enjoys sexually.
SELF REFLECTION
Spend some time reflecting on your own thoughts, feelings, and fantasies. Consider what activities, scenarios, or dynamics you find intriguing or arousing. It can be helpful to keep a journal and jot down any ideas or fantasies that come to mind.
COMMUNICATE OPENLY
Healthy and open communication with your partner(s) is essential. Discuss your desires, boundaries, and interests with your partner(s) in a non-judgmental and supportive environment. Share your thoughts and feelings, and encourage them to do the same. Remember, effective communication is key to a satisfying sexual relationship.
EXPLORE TOGETHER
Engage in a process of mutual exploration and experimentation with your partner(s). Try out different activities, techniques, and scenarios that interest you. Pay attention to how your body responds and what brings you pleasure. Provide feedback to your partner(s) and encourage them to do the same.
SEEK INSPIRATION
Tap into something called Literotica, which is erotic storytelling – its blogs, sites, videos, podcasts, lots of places where people tell erotic stories and you can see if you jive with any of those narratives. There is also a great deal of ethical, consensual porn made for women and by women where you will never see a penis enlargement ad and the women are in charge, not passive and vulnerable but strong and with agency- maybe that could spark something because the narrative is female focused
TAKE IT SLOW
It’s important to remember that discovering your preferences is an ongoing process. Give yourself permission to explore at your own pace and be patient with yourself. It’s okay to try new things and realize they’re not for you. Remember, consent and personal boundaries should always be respected.
The most important aspect is to approach the exploration with an open mind, be respectful of yourself and your partner(s), and prioritize consent and communication throughout the process.
