4 Things To Do When She Says “Condoms Are Optional”
Q: Frank called The Cooper and Anthony Show to ask a simple question. What should a guy do when new partner says condom use is optional? Frank said, “I am a guy, after all, so that sounds good but then I think of all the other guys she has said that to and then I’m wondering if it’s a mistake not to use one.”
A: You have to do what’s comfortable for you. If a new lover isn’t into using condoms, you can be sure she does the same with every guy. Unless you have both been tested for STIs before having sex, I would use a condom. I mean…seriously. Use a condom!
Pregnancy and STIs are both things you want to avoid, right? What happens if you get her pregnant? What happens if she gives you Herpes? Are those worth one night of great sex? And what if the sex sucks? Then you really risked way too much.
Handling a situation where a new sex partner tells you that condoms are optional is crucial for your sexual health and well-being. She is not worried about you, which is why you have to be your own best advocate. Prioritize your own safety and make informed decisions to protect yourself from STIs and unintended pregnancies.
Here are some steps to handle this situation:
You know about the risks associated with unprotected sex. Understanding the potential consequences can help you make informed decisions and communicate effectively with your partner.
Communicate the importance of protection: Emphasize the importance of using condoms as a precautionary measure for both of you. Reinforce that it is not a judgment on your partner but a shared responsibility for each other’s health and safety.
Share your boundaries: Assert your boundaries clearly. If you are uncomfortable with having unprotected sex, make sure she understands this.
Consider getting tested first, if you can: Suggest that both of you undergo STI testing before engaging in sexual activities. This can help create a more informed and responsible approach to sexual health.
Going back to my original comment. Make a decision based on your comfort level: Ultimately, the decision to engage in sexual activity without condoms is yours to make. If your partner is not willing to use condoms, it might be best to prioritize your health and safety and reconsider whether this relationship is right for you.
Remember that using condoms is not only about preventing STIs and pregnancies but also about respecting and caring for yourself and your partner’s well-being.
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