Sorry! If She’s Not Into You, She Can Date Your BFF Instead
Q: Noah called the Cooper and Anthony Show with a very “it’s complicated” situation. He is in love with a girl who isn’t interested. Everyone in their group knows he’s been in love with her for years but they also know that she’s not into him.
So, he went away for the weekend with his best friend, this girl, and some other people and ended up sharing a room with his friend. He woke up in the middle of the night and his friend was having sex with the girl he’s in love with. His friend never asked Noah’s opinion or permission about dating her. Does he have the right to be upset?
A: Our Dr. Cooper was firm and right to the point. She told him:
Your friend could have been more discreet and he could have said something to you but he didn’t. I don’t mean this to be harsh, but you don’t have any claims here and nobody needs your permission to date. They also don’t need your permission to hookup.
She told you she’s not interested. So, she gets to bang whoever she wants to bang and that seems to be your friend. It’s of no concern to you and none of your business. You don’t get to have any say in who either of them gets to have sex with.
You can’t put your claim on people especially someone who you’ve never had a relation ship with and who has been very clear- for years- that she is not interested in you. Neither of them have to check with you to see who they get to bang.
He doesn’t need your permission. She isn’t yours. Sorry that it sucks, but it only makes you look controlling to tell people who they can and can’t hook up with.
My question to you, is why were you even there? People go away to weekend houses to hook up. What did you think was going to happen?
