My Boyfriend Is Regretting Watching Me Have Sex With Other Men
Q: Carla called The Cooper and Anthony Show during the Sex Hour. She has been with boyfriend for two years and during that time they have been enjoying the cuckolding kink. He wants to not just hear about her having sex with other men. He likes videos of her with other men too. However, things have changed and she’s confused. After almost two years of this shared kink, he’s been regretting asking for videos and asking her to have sex with other men. He’s even starting to feel bad about himself afterward. What does she do?
A: That fetish (cuckolding) is a powerful sexual turn-on for some men. They get aroused by the idea of their romantic partner engaging in sexual activity with someone else. Fetishes are hardwired. They are usually who we are and it’s not easy to walk away once you’ve started.
I do think it’s key that it’s two years in that he’s starting to think about maybe not doing this anymore. It’s starting to bother him. It says he’s starting to see you in a more relashionshippy way. He’s seeing you less as a sexual object and that’s making him uncomfortable. It’s probably very conflicting for him too because this is his kink, yet he’s starting to have trouble enjoying it with you.
WHEN YOUR KINK OR FETISH STARTS TO FEEL LESS IMPORTANT
Is he starting to see you differently and that is where his conflict is coming in or is it some other thing? People who enjoy kinks and fetishes and then start to no longer enjoy them- it’s usually for a reason. Some specific stress in his life or big changes that are happening that are affecting him sexually, emotionally, whatever could be at the core of this drastic change. So, you need to talk to him and find out. Is it about you or is it about him? I can’t answer that, only he can.
WHAT MAKES CUCKOLDING HOT
It’s important to understand that part of what makes the cuckold fetish hot for some men is that it’s the ultimate taboo act. Our society idealizes monogamy, so the cuckold fantasy is the ultimate eff-you to that idea, but it’s also about a humiliation kink for some. They like being emasculated and humiliated by another man enjoying their woman sexually. The main aspect of all kink and fetish that everyone must understand is that these are things that are deep within us. Understand, rather than shame.