Why Is She 36 And Still A Virgin?
Q: Adam is a 38 year old guy. His female best friend of many years is 36. They’ve been hanging out a lot more and he’s thinking about talking to her about making it a thing. He’s hesitating because she’s 36 and still a virgin. He’s worried there is a big experience gap between them and wants more information before he can proceed. He asked our Dr. Cooper of The Cooper and Anthony Show what to do about the experience gap.
IF SHE’S STILL A VIRGIN AT 36, THERE’S A REASON
It’s not the sexual experience gap that’s the problem. You are winning 55 to nothing and you want to know why she can’t even score any points? It’s not like a 7-3 ball game, she has zero points. There’s a reason she is a virgin at 36 and she may never tell you. It’s not happenstance, maybe that’s the excuse she might have been giving you. If an attractive 36 year old woman is still a virgin, there is a reason!
THE POSSIBILITIES ARE ENDLESS
If she’s still a virgin at 36, maybe it’s psychological or it’s medical, or maybe it’s some sort of prior trauma. She could be asexual, or she could be gay and not out to herself yet.
Or, and this is common, she could have a very different definition of virginity than you do. She could have had anal sex and oral sex plenty of times but because she never had vaginal, PIV sex, so she says she’s a virgin. She could have Vaginismus where it’s too painful to have sex or maybe she has a septate hymen where there’s an extra layer of skin that can’t be easily penetrated. There are literally dozens of reasons why she is a virgin at 36.
If you told me she was 24 I’d say, meh, it happens. But at 36? There’s a reason. So, yes you do need more information from her if she’s willing to tell you. Maybe she’s just waiting for you to ask?