How To Stop Getting Friendzoned
Q: Vince is 20 and has never had a relationship. He says he always gets freindzoned and worries that it’s because he comes across too desperate.
A: Our Dr. Cooper of The Cooper and Anthony Show had some advice, but Anthony thought treating a girl like crap would be a good idea, it usually works for him. He said to ghost her while you’re on a date and then never call her. But if you’re not a jerk and you truly want a relationship, there are ways to get out of the friendzone without trying to date her sister.
HERE’S THE REAL DEAL
There’s a difference between feeling desperate and acting desperate. You can feel desperate, just make sure you’re not acting that way. How do you stop acting desperate, by taking action
Confidence comes from being an active person, having hobbies, having interests to become more interesting. I always suggest any of the meet up sites because they aren’t hook up sites, they’re like minded people doing stuff, getting out of the house to hear a lecture, explore a cave, go on a long bike ride…whatever thing you’re interested in, there are dozens of meet up groups that do that thing. It makes you super interesting.
BE THE MAN SHE’S LOOKING FOR
You should also work on becoming the ideal partner. I can tell you right now, you’re getting freindzoned, not because you’re not a great guy, you probably are a great guy, you’re just not boyfriend material because you haven’t created that for yourself. So, become a perfect partner.
Do things like, become a great cook and make a meal for a girl you like, or get better at being super romantic, which can be anything from fixing her car if your mechanically inclined, to buying her favorite dessert because you saw on IG she posted key lime pie #favorite, something that shows you’re paying attention–again-action.
Also, Update your wardrobe, deal with any behavioral issues you have, like anxiety..and don’t be over the top when you meet a girl you like, be super chill about it. Don’t be entitled, be romantic and kind. Don’t be lazy, be active and I 100% guarantee if you follow my advice you will get a girlfriend.
Here are some more suggestions to help you in this process:
- Assess your feelings: Make sure your feelings for your friend are genuine and that you genuinely want to pursue a romantic relationship with them. Consider the compatibility between you and the potential impact on your friendship.
- Communicate openly and honestly: Find an appropriate time and place to have a sincere conversation with your friend. Express your feelings calmly and clearly, letting them know that you value the friendship but have developed deeper feelings.
- Respect their decision: Understand that your friend may not reciprocate your feelings. If they do not share the same romantic interest, respect their decision and be prepared to continue the friendship without any resentment or pressure.
- Create some distance if needed: If your friend needs time and space to process their feelings, respect their wishes. It might be helpful to take a temporary step back from the friendship to allow emotions to settle.
- Focus on self-improvement: Use this time to work on yourself, pursue personal goals, and develop new interests. This demonstrates independence and growth, which can be attractive qualities.
- Expand your social circle: Engage in activities and meet new people to broaden your social circle. This can help you gain new perspectives and potentially meet someone who reciprocates your romantic feelings.
- Maintain the friendship: If your friend is open to it, continue the friendship while being mindful of any potential awkwardness. It’s important to maintain the connection if you genuinely value their friendship.
