The Ultimate Guide To Hooking Up On Dating Apps
Q: Lucus called The Cooper and Anthony Show to ask about how to close the deal on the dating apps and online dating. He doesn’t know what to say first. He will ask about her profile but not everyone writes stuff, so, how does he craft that first message to get the hook up?
A: Let me start by helping you take the pressure off and tell you that a recent study found that 67% of people who are on dating apps met their current partner on a dating app, so your odds are good you’ll get there.
Sean Rad, the co-founder of Tinder says that it’s important to be genuine but also funny, (if you’re funny) and he recommends linking your instagram to your profile which means you should be swiping on girls who have linked theirs so you can learn more about them and that’s where the conversation starts
That way it’s easier to find something in common to talk about. That’s better than some random conversation. “Oh I see you went to The University Of Michigan, so did my cousin, he said Comet Coffee was his go to, how about you?”
Rad also says that an empty bio is a red flag. It’s a catfish or something. Nobody who wants a date skips the bio, so there should always be something to comment on.
His three tips on a first message are don’t be dull, engage with the person based on what their bio says and don’t overthink it. Just be friendly and respectful
But your key is going to be in their instagram or their bio because that is the stuff they CHOSE to show to the world, the stuff that defines them, the stuff that matters to them. So its important to acknowledge that and comment on it or ask about it because they want you to.
Here are a few other tips when it comes to getting some action on your profile:
1. Create an interesting profile: Anyone can say they like coffee and dogs. Highlight your unique qualities that make you stand out from the other dudes.
2. Be selective and realistic: Rather than swiping right on every profile, take the time to read bios and look for potential matches that align with you.
3. Initiate meaningful conversations: DO NOT be boring and obvious. No girl wants to see generic openers like “Hey” or “What’s up?” Instead, show genuine interest by mentioning something specific from their profile or asking a real question.
4. Be respectful and authentic: Treat others with respect and kindness. Do we really need to say this?
5. Move the conversation forward: Don’t let the conversation linger for too long. Once you’ve built a rapport, move it to a real-life meeting. Studies show that the longer people stay in the DM, the less likely it will work out.
6. Prioritize safety: Choose public places for initial meetings, inform a friend or family member that you’re going and trust your instincts. This is for men and women.
7. Don’t get discouraged: Finding the right match takes time. Don’t be disheartened by rejections or lack of immediate success. Stay positive, be patient, and keep trying.
