Porn Is Ruining Women’s Libidos Too
Q: Mia told Cooper and Anthony that she can’t orgasm while having sex. She can with a vibrator and porn on her own but now with her boyfriend. She is in her first real adult relationship and he’s starting to take it personally. Is it the porn that’s ruined her sex life?
A: It may be the porn, it may not be. You’ve socialized yourself to have an orgasm while you’re alone and not when you’re in the presence of another person.
This is the problem with porn and since 2000 we psychologists have seen an uptick in those of a younger generation who are having trouble sexually. Sexual dysfunction is on the rise in those 30 and under and a recent study found brain differences linked to porn
In case you’re not familiar, here’s a quick catch-up: a sexual diet that is heavy on porn, like on your phone or laptop can change the way the brain responds to sexual cues, it conditions the brain to a certain set of stimuli and that’s the only way you can orgasm. Here’s a study to explain, if you’re interested.
So, you have to go on a porn diet. You have to stop watching porn and stop having 2 dimensional orgasms and begin to have three dimensional ones, like with your boyfriend. Use toys, your imagination, whatever, but you have to start retraining your brain.
The claim that pornography is universally “ruining libidos” is a complex and debated topic, and it’s important to approach it with nuance. There are different perspectives on how pornography can impact individuals, especially young people. Here are some of the arguments:
- Unrealistic Expectations: Pornography often portrays sex in ways that are exaggerated or unrealistic. This can create unrealistic expectations about what sex should be like, both in terms of physical performance and the dynamics of relationships.
- Desensitization: Some studies suggest that frequent exposure to pornography might lead to desensitization, where individuals may require more extreme or novel forms of stimulation to become aroused. This could potentially lead to difficulties in real-life sexual encounters.
- Body Image Issues: Frequent exposure to idealized and airbrushed bodies in pornography can contribute to body image issues and insecurity, especially for young people who may already be sensitive about their appearance.
- Positive Aspects: It’s worth noting that not all experiences with pornography are negative. Some people report that it can be a source of sexual education, exploration, and even a healthy part of their sexual lives.
